大连厨艺培训班:how to communicate with others

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communicate with others

Previous two days read the title in the school newspaper are "except Oneself, In Your Eye Also Some Who" did an article, quite have the feelings. In the article mentioned the department of journalism studies together has written about the present graduate student interpersonal faint article, has caused teacher and the schoolmates attention, afterwards, reporter launched the investigation to 56 graduate students, finally indicated: "At present the interpersonal relationship quite indifferent or is indifferent" has 30 people, but thought between the graduate student schoolmate "has the necessity mutually to know" has 51 people. Respectively holds the viewpoint, the opinion differently by the surveyor respectively. Some people thought indifferent is one kind of right, some people thought should not be indifferent, must start to walk on own initiative first step and so on. How regardless of appraises, the investigation data clear indicated the graduate student was not changes initiative in the human communication aspect, but was just the opposite.

Did not know such data is worth us reconsidering, or objective return to original state this world original condition, but "Interpersonal Communication Art" a class has also facilitated me to some questions thinkings, plans a record graduate student in a human communication aspect superficial understanding, however I thought a graduate student such category is quite broad, crosswise said, the graduate student has division of the liberal arts engineering course; Longitudinal said the graduate student has the undergraduate course directly to come up, has the work experience and gets married and begins a career the division. These different crowd myself all fortunately have contacted, thought in is different crowd between or has the certain difference. The author is graduates the undergraduate course straight to respectfully received and read grinds, therefore has a more direct-viewing understanding to and an own kind of crowd, after therefore in the article states more attention graduates the engineering course graduate student which the undergraduate course straight respectfully receiveds and reads grinds.

People live in the society, social itself is the mixture which constitutes by the person and the person, is doomed the person to have its social attribute, also naturally involved human communication this category, the author had thought the human communication was not the final goal, it could from some angle understanding be one kind of tool perhaps one kind of need. Defined myself to the human communication to look up the related definition and the correlation explained that, "The human communication is the individual and periphery between person's one kind of psychology and the behavior communication process; But between the person and the person with mutually affects the direct psychological relations through the contact which forms to be called the interpersonal relationship, it is forms in the people direct contact, mainly includes the friend to relate, the schoolmate relates, the colleague relates, the fellow villager relates, the neighborhood relations, the teachers and students relations, the husbands and wives relates, content and so on own child relations. Once some people sighed that, the life happy was in the final analysis human sentiment happiness, the life is rich is interpersonal relationship rich. The life, is impossible not to associate with the others; But normal, happy contact, the good interpersonal relationship often is relating a person life happiness and the success."

Do that human communications put in our graduate student this kind of community have some special significances? Before this, I want first to carry on the analysis to graduate student this kind of special community, takes the graduate student, he similarity lies in with the undergraduate student no longer is the pure study, he wants to do more research and the development work, compares says, his research direction wants careful and is single-minded, but must want to yield the result, he must more dedicated, must invest more time and the energy in the research. Under such background, some which in addition originally raids studies investigates the breath, causes him less or is not willing to pay attention to the human communication, the contact scope quite is narrow, some people display relatively closed. Does not stop the charge regarding this kind of expectation development, also the relatively busy community said, the human communication and the communication are does not have the major function? This question myself am understand like this.

Interpersonal exchanges communications in the graduate student this kind of community's significance may in the study work, the life and the psychology and so on three aspects displays. Said from the study work angle that, own discovered engineering course the schoolmate obviously had former some study customs, very many questions liked oneself earnestly painstakingly doing, very many times considered only lower the head walk, was not willing to gain ground looks the day. Cannot or very little puts the attainment and some ideas which initiative and the others exchanges own to study, to from the choice study reference, as is slightly big as the research question discussion, all lacks the essential study (academic) to exchange. Advocated the independent study is right, but the suitable communication and the exchange is similarly important, it sometimes may give oneself melts the wrong way, sometimes may play the joy after sorrow role. Initiative and long the person exchange which to oneself, and own travels together, may discover some difficulties certainly are not for the oneself all, as for is not ignorant is unclear; Excavates the others good research custom and the thinking mode, uses for the oneself; Borrows position and idea which accepts, for oneself in under study work middle finger clear direction. The present society is the information high speed time, grasps own study research direction to depend on single-handedly, depends on divorces oneself from reality is not good, the single ability is after all frail, but the suitable exchange can add the wing for oneself, little walks a tortuous path.

From the life aspect, should say 80's births the only child already large quantities of welled up into in graduate student this community, enabled this stage the graduate student also to have the new some characteristics. Because the majority of people have a high and respected position since childhood in the home, in the psychology is maintaining some superiority feeling, in addition stronger longed for the successful point of view, enables us to pay attention to own development, but comparatively little took into consideration the other people, the life arrangement ability is weaker compared with the former years, independent consciousness was not strong. Although has the social dealings daily with the person, but the topic which may chat with the person between is relatively deficient, has lived ordinary, does not understand helps others do well, cannot discover and the person is together pleasure. Between the person and person's contact is away from the level mist on the picture, vague. We will not joyfully have joyfully together to share, cannot find the way which or will be very difficult to find divulges. I thought we were the development or from the happy way attention excessively many, but to lived itself ponders has been short, was the footsteps too is hurried, but has not discovered the life originally appearance.

In psychological aspect then question prominent, nobody denies the graduate student is psychological question Gao Fa community, I on not only time saw above the white clouds yellow crane BBS ten big topics such as "has had thought suicide", "pressure high, melancholy" and so on the card, very are many is the graduate student initiates the topic. The body for those concerned's I, certainly can understand, because in the person which my side has a more thorough contact (including oneself), which doesn't have not to receive despondent and the puzzled puzzle. The author attempts from this kind of community to look for a general character reason.

Our very many people are straight respectfully received and read from the undergraduate course grind, should say this develops a course transition, if the undergraduate course has more unknown to own development, the graduate student starts to need to realize own next, and gradually raises an own enterprise the concept, it works the goal can be clear about. At the same time, the pressure also naturally follows on somebody's heels, we need to consider question more, from the near paper graduation, will base to the next society, gets married and begins a career and so on, will need to step on under the cloud way from the undergraduate course the soft landing to get down, from as the reality, from purely to will be as ideally mature, a such psychological change will be painful without doubt. Very many people because blind tomorrow perhaps will not be willing to the reality to feel is miserable beyond description, more people have chosen the silence, but such way will make in the heart the product strongly fragrant to increase steadily, but will not be willing to seek the appropriate way to unblock, like this in turn has formed the vicious circle.

In the psychological aspect, the human communication is has obviously is positive at the same time. "English renowned philosopher Bacon said, ' when you encounter the setback to feel is resentfully despondent, pours out to intimate friend's may enable you to obtain unblocks; Otherwise, this kind constrains despondently can cause the person pathogenesis.' In in the human communication process, we may promptly divulge own not not evenly, are angry, suffering from injustice with the worry, may mediate in the heart the depression; Because obtains others' help and the comfort, may reduce the mind the pain and lonely, obtains the security sense and the ownership feeling, reduces the psychological fear thus to reduce the pressure, eliminates the psychology to be saturated, reduces induces the body and mind disease the factor. At the same time, we also may obtain the inspiration and the sudden enlightenment from opposite party conversation, restimulates self-confidently, retrieved the former days the joy, reachieved the psychology was balanced."

Obviously human communications study, the life and the psychology in the graduate student are its function, the healthy human communication has the profit to oneself. Needs to explain, in the article states human communication by no means casual acquaintance, also is not for associate associates. The mature effective human communication may transmit the valuable information, establishes the broad resources, feels the dear ones friendship comforting, melts in the heart the anxiety, again ascends the life the pleasure. In the graduate student stage, how establishes to suit but the good interpersonal relationship? I thought this no doubt has factor and so on external environment, what but are more is the intrinsic own factor.

Intrinsic adjustments, should first from the self- start, first reknow oneself, the respect oneself, accepts oneself, can face up to and contain own flaw and the insufficiency. The massive evidence also similarly indicated that, a person more is respects oneself, more possibly treats the other people by the tolerant manner. Next sincerely wants to the person to be clear, nobody is willing to have a mind with a hypocrisy person with the heart communication, again the secondary some open mind, encounters the trouble when oneself, the academic society found the correct way and the appropriate person seeks the help, unblocks own depression; Periphery pays attention the friend, the academic society hands over own ear, has the difficulty when them, stretches out both hands which all day bustles about. Finally must diligently enhance own humanities self-control, only then as for with the wind does not drag in the contact, loses oneself, but own sending out breath also similarly has the power.

Because time limited, and has little talent and less learning, causes oneself not to make more thorough inquiring into in this kind of aspect, although is not mature even some shortcomings leaks, but eventually has the thing which some own pondered in inside, is very gratified, the mistake place also looks teacher to criticize points out mistakes.

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